Boredom commonly begins one to two years after you retire. It surfaces when you feel a lack of direction for your life. According to Mihaly, Csikszentmihalyi, author of Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience he found that boredom stems from the following 4 things:
1. A lack of awareness of stimulating things to do in leisure; 2. A lack of intrinsic motivation. This refers to engaging in a behavior that is internally rewarding rather than seeking an external;
3. And in particular, self-determination to act on the desire to alleviate boredom. Self-determination means you can make a decision without influence from outside influence;
4. A mismatch between one's skill and the challenge at hand.
Finding a solution to boredom can be challenging. This is especially true if you feel depressed or can't shake the feeling of restlessness. Coaching is the quickest way to regain happiness. With the use of scientifically-proven tools, guidance, and processes you quickly get your life back on track so you can feel fulfilled, productive, and happy again.
Marriage is not easy. Roughly 1/2 of all first marriages, 2/3 of second marriages, and three-3/4 marriages fail. Surprisingly, wives initiate 80 percent of divorce proceedings. Many marriages don’t work out because people have unrealistic expectations.
Also, two key components make a relationship successful. The first is the development of the couple. The second is the continuation of self-growth. When the progression of either stall, boredom surfaces. Although most people minimize its significance, boredom is a critical emotion that needs to be addressed. Short-term marriage coaching helps you quickly identify and correct the weak areas in your relationship.
Feeling bored with life can happen at any age. It’s a sign that you are not being challenged or developing yourself. Boredom takes place when you lose sight of your vision, aren’t applying your talents, and don’t have a clear plan of action for where you want to take your life.
Boredom researcher, Wijnand A.P. van Tilburg, Ph.D. believes that when "bored, you feel that your actions are meaningless…it makes you long for different and purposeful activities and, as a result, you turn towards more challenging and meaningful activities, turning toward what you perceive to be really meaningful in life."